“It's not how much we give but how much love we put into giving.” - Mother Teresa

“We make a living by what we get. We make a life by what we give.” - Winston Churchill

“Let us make one point, that we meet each other with a smile, when it is difficult to smile. Smile at each other, make time for each other in your family.” - Mother Teresa

“The only gift I have to give, is the ability to receive. If giving is a gift, and it surely is, then my gift to you is to allow you to give to me.”  - Jarod Kintz

“Presents are made for the pleasure of who gives them, not the merits of who receives them.” - Carlos Ruiz Zafon

“I know what I have given you... I do not know what you have received.” - Antonio Porchia

“I must be willing to give whatever it takes to do good to others. This requires that I be willing to give until it hurts. Otherwise, there is no true love in me, and I bring injustice, not peace, to those around me.” - Mother Teresa

“You can give without loving, but you can never love without giving.” - Robert Louis Stevenson

“Speak the truth do not become angered and give when asked, even be it a little. By these three conditions one goes to the presence of the gods.” - Gautama Buddha

“You have what I can afford to give. You are a panhandler, begging for anything, and I am the man walking briskly by, tossing a quarter or so into your paper cup. I can afford to give you this. This does not break me.” - Dave Eggers

“Generosity is not giving me that which I need that you do, but it is giving me that which you need more that I do.” - Kahlil Gibran

“One must be poor to know the luxury of giving.” - George Eliot

“No one is useless in this world who lightens the burdens of another.” - Charles Dickens

“You give but little when you give of your possessions. It is when you give of yourself that you truly give.” - Kahlil Gibran

“Give yourself entirely to those around you. Be generous with your blessings. A kind gesture can reach a wound that only compassion can heal.” - Steve Maraboli

_“Happiness doesn't result from what we get, but from what we give.” - Ben Carson

“The earth does not belong to us. We belong to the earth.” - Chief Seattle

“I slept and I dreamed that life is all joy. I woke and I saw that life is all service. I served and I saw that service is joy.” - Kahlil Gibran

“For it is in giving that we receive.” - St. Francis of Assisi

“As we work to create light for others, we naturally light our own way.” - Mary Anne Radmacher

“Give freely to the world these gifts of love and compassion. Do not concern yourself with how much you receive in return, just know in your heart it will be returned.” - Steve Maraboli

“Gracious acceptance is an art - an art which most never bother to cultivate. We think that we have to learn how to give, but we forget about accepting things, which can be much harder than giving.... Accepting another person's gift is allowing him to express his feelings for you.” - Alexander McCall Smith

“It's bad enough in life to do without something YOU want; but confound it, what gets my goat is not being able to give somebody something you want THEM to have.” - Truman Capote

"Giving yourself some loving attention is not selfish. It is sensible. If you feel loved and cherished--even if it is only by yourself--then you will have more love to give to others, too." - Penelope Quest

MATES are focused on their own personal growth so that they may develop a greater capacity to contribute... this is what we see as authentic living. Please contact us to find out more...

​​"If you can place a physical or emotional barrier between a person and suicide... you will help to save their life!” - Kerry Babbage

​Take Charge of Your Emotions:

​​Mind Renaissance and the Emotional Reset Technique helps us establish a calm physiological state when emotionally triggered from a perceived threat or hurt. It is effective in resetting and regulating our facial expressions, gestures, listening and voice tonality. ERT also helps calm the heart, down-regulates defenses and increases the flow of beneficial hormones and neurochemicals within the body such as dopamine, oxytocin, serotonin and endorphins,  giving you real power and control over 3 main areas of your life:

  1.  Emotions: Your biology and psychology work together and your physiology is the best indicator of threat.​

• Your brain is designed to connect with others and is threatened when you feel isolated
• Maintaining positive emotions is dependent on energy drain from false emotional triggers
• Being able to consistently reset your negative emotions to a place of calm is true power

 
 2.  ​Relationships: Great relationships are your best investment in time and energy and the best antidepressant.

• Being able to reorient your brain's focus from threat/suffering toward reward/happiness
• Understanding and awareness that your attitude creates your state, therefore your world
• Your creative potential is achieved through your relationships with people

 
​ 3.  Thinking: It is your thinking that sabotages your happiness by putting a meaning on the situation or event.

• Taking full accountability for the choices you make and their outcomes
• Eliminating accusation, blame and criticism from your life
• Focusing your energy on what you want and not on what you don’t want

Prevent Relationship Breakdown

​Over the last 15 years in helping thousands of people overcome depression, suicide ideology and family violence, we recognise that the vast majority of these social challenges stem from relationship breakdown. Your ability to feel good about yourself and your life is to recognize you are in a constant relationship with ourselves and others whether we are at work, home, in our community, social gatherings, sports, or school. 

The biggest impediment to achieving happy and fulfilling relationships are emotional reactions to real or imagined events and situations such as bullying, various forms of harassment and isolation. These may include feelings such as anger, frustration, anxiety, sadness. We feel emotionally triggered many times a day, more often when we have other issues going on that we don’t know how to resolve and sadly if not addressed can lead to anxiety, depression, addictions, family violence, bullying, various forms of harassment, isolation and thoughts about suicide.

Arguments drain energy and usually end up in a negative situation and outcome for all concerned. Sometimes, devastating things are said and done in the heat of the moment that you can regret for the rest of your life. An argument can be brought on by a clashing of ideas, not feeling heard, feeling disrespected, feeling judged, feeling accused, feeling put down, feeling unappreciated and can arise in moments unexpectedly and that are not the best time to have a discussion. 

​We have been conditioned since childhood to ignore or suppress our emotions to make us more acceptable to others. This very act keeps us feeling separate and isolated from others. ​Stop the cycle of violence toward yourself and others by mastering your emotions and associated triggers.

The Emotional Reset Technique is key to being in charge of how you feel. It will allow you to express your thoughts and feelings intelligently, from a more neutral, calm and aligned perspective so you: ​

• Become far less defensive when you are triggered and prevent your mind from over analyzing and reacting to situations
• Have no need to make excuses for your behavior and/or deal with the negative impact and destruction of these in your life.
• Develop more confidence to live a life of respect for yourself and others leading to mental and emotional peace and well being.

"We often react in a negative manner when emotionally triggered and there is nothing we want more than to be able to stay calm and be responsive”

"MATES are experts in development and facilitation of health / well-being, community empowerment, online programs, seminars and workshops.”

Mate-ship is about working together harmoniously as a team. Encouraging, uplifting, and accelerating each others conscious development process and its integration into life. Helping to avoid slipping back into bad habits and into the path of least resistance.

Vision: MATES Cafe help people of all cultures and ethnicity overcome life challenges such as loneliness, relationship breakdown, anxiety, loss and grief by being there and helping them find new life direction.​​

Purpose: MATES Cafe supports adults, teens and elders of all gender, culture, ethnicity and personal beliefs through life’s challenges such as relationship breakdown, depression, anxiety, loss and grief, bullying, loneliness and isolation.

Values: Integrity, Respect, Empathy, Passion, Connection, Empowerment and Contribution

Relationship breakdown creates the perception of isolation and the feelings of isolation can lead to family violence, depression and suicide. MATES Cafe 1/1 meetings for those in crisis, along with Mind Renaissance and the Emotional Reset Technique Program and support membership; help people out of isolation and empower their relationships to build stronger communities. MATES Cafe is bringing people together.

The MATES Organisation was established in 2003. Through a strength based initiative, MATES Programs address many issues costing our communities dearly. The enormous social impact and emotional toll on families as well as the financial cost.

MATES are lowering the rising rates of Suicide, Family Violence, Depression, Relationship Breakdowns, Criminal Activity, Addictive and Dysfunctional Behavior, Stress, Violence, Low Self-Esteem, Lack of Direction and Focus.
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MATES continue to reduce the alarming statistics of social dysfunction through:

• Provide MATES to be there for those in a time of need and therefore eliminate isolation
• State-of-art programs to help people overcome their emotional triggers
• Relationship support and programs to help bring people together​

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13 Reasons why you should consider supporting MATES:

MATES Cafe save lives, and you can too! Engage with MATES Cafe and help us connect people with crisis support and empower their lives. Whether you’re considering MATES Cafe for a company donation, as a workplace giving partner or as your strategic national charity partner, MATES Cafe will demonstrate time again that we are a charity of choice, that our services are relevant to all New Zealanders, and that our professionalism and understanding of business will lead to win-win partnerships.

1. MATES is relevant - everyone knows someone affected by suicide
   1 in 400 New Zealanders have lost someone of significance to suicide in the last 10 years and the majority of us know people who have been directly affected by suicide. The MATES breakthrough structure of support/empower provides contact at the point of crisis (MATES Cafe 1/1 Crisis Support) followed by our Emotional Reset Technique program which empowers people to deal with the root cause of suicide which is their emotional triggers.
   
   
2. MATES directly addresses mental health concerns which lead to addictions, isolation and suicide
   1 in 5 New Zealanders are affected by a mental health concern such as depression or anxiety which can lead to undesirable outcomes including addictions and suicide. Unresolved emotional triggers lead to a cycle of negative thoughts which trigger further unwanted emotions. More than one person every day kill themselves in New Zealand with 75% of suicides being male.


3. MATES helps to restore broken relationships
   In many cases, anxiety, depression and suicide are caused by relationship breakdown which can be the result of family violence caused by emotional triggers getting out of control. Relationship breakups also lead to social isolation and poverty. The poverty rate for solo parent families is 62% versus 15% in two-parent families, with a staggering 40% of relationships ending within 3 years.
   
   The Emotional Reset Technique program provided by MATES Cafe gives men, women and couples clarity, direction and purpose as well as explaining how to overcome negative thoughts and emotional triggering so they can take charge of their emotions and be in charge of their life.​
4. We are unique
   MATES Cafe is occupying a unique, prominent and vital position in the mental health sector and is our nation’s professional crisis support and suicide prevention support services for couples and their families. Our support then empower structure provides a win/win outcome by providing the necessary tools for people to become in charge of their life and someone their loved ones respect and look up to.
5. We are supported by a leading medical specialist and neuroscience
   The Emotional Reset Technique program provided by MATES Cafe is endorsed by a leading medical specialist in the treatment of anxiety and metabolic disorders including heart disease. We are also working closely with Neuroscientists to explore the neuroscience behind this breakthrough technique and how it can benefit humanity.
6. Our partnerships are results driven
   MATES Cafe is recognized for our innovation and results oriented partnership activities, and together with initiatives such as MATES Cafe 1/1 Crisis Support, the Emotional Reset Technique program and Life Mastery support membership we intend to lead the way in community awareness, education and empowerment.
7. Strong national brand awareness
   MATES Cafe has a unique position in the New Zealand Community in that it is a much needed service indicated by statistics of health and well-being and by community feedback. MATES Cafe utilizes this unique selling potential to create 96%* brand awareness and 92%* trust among the New Zealand population as an organisation that is serving the community as one of New Zealand’s most trusted charity brands.
8. Experienced in collaboration
   MATES Cafe will demonstrate its ability in working collaboratively with its partners and supporters, and in managing each relationship on its requirements and merits. We tailor our corporate activities to meet the needs of our consumers and partners alike, while meeting our own strategic objectives.
9. We communicate well
   We understand the importance of knowing how your support and donations are helping the community. That’s why we communicate regularly with our corporate supporters and inform them about our work in the community, what is new at MATES Cafe and what additional opportunities there are for your engagement with our organisation.
10. We are progressive
    By embracing new technology and responding to environmental change, we acknowledge the need to change with the times in order to meet the demands of the community. We are a leader in technology and service applications. The MATES Cafe 1/1 Crisis Support will be fully supported by our free mobile phone app which provides instant crisis support and access to the Emotional Reset Technique program.
    
    
11. Your brand can make a difference
    As they say, every dollar helps, but our alignment with high level partners can make us truly sustainable. Your established brand provides the opportunity for MATES Cafe to reach more New Zealanders in need, while generating much needed awareness that will generate additional funding opportunities. Support of MATES Cafe is both lifesaving and socially significant. MATES Cafe crisis support service is relevant to everyone - including your staff, your stakeholders and your community.
12. We are leaders
    MATES Cafe intend to be the leading provider of suicide prevention services in New Zealand, and offers services that lead the way in terms of quality, accessibility and innovation. We see our MATES Cafe phone app and Emotional Reset Technique program uniting and maximizing the effectiveness of community organisations throughout New Zealand.
13. MATES saves lives!
    MATES Cafe believes that suicide is mostly a preventable cause of death. Even one life lost to suicide is a life too many. Those who donate and support MATES Cafe, quite literally help save lives.